The dad constantly called his son junior. His son hated it, yet learned to live with it begrudgingly, even though he often asked his father to stop calling him that. Having lost his wife in the early years, the dad was ill prepared to nurture his son. Instead he tried to toughen him up. And that he did.
As his adulthood progressed the son longed to have a normal talk with his conversationally-challenged father. Alas, even then it was a struggle. It took shared suffering to knock some sense into the father’s head. Fortunately, they survived multiple close-calls to understand the opportunity set before them.
Sound like someone you know? No, it isn’t me, although I can relate to some degree. In my adulthood, my father and I gained a mutual respect for each other which allowed for deeper conversations. The fictional Indiana Jones and his father almost missed their chance. But alas, it was given to them in the movie Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade.
Fathers, don’t wait to have deeper conversations with your sons or your daughters. Take the initiative. The fictional elder Dr. Jones often regretted not doing this with Indiana Jones. Why store up similar regrets for yourselves? Go be a father. You are the only one who can do that for your children. Make it your crusade for their benefit, without all the ugly connotations of strife associated with other crusades; make it a quest for family closeness to each other and to God. You will not regret a moment spent on your quest.