I am learning the power of good questions. Good questions do not back a person into a corner and make them defensive. Nor do they allow for simple yes or no responses. Good questions invite the responder to dig deep in the well of their own experience, expertise, and dreams to consider new possibilities in light of current realities and existing resources, as well as brainstorming a preferred future and the requisite resources to make it possible. Good questions make us think deeply.
For example, here is a question for those of you who are fellow children’s ministry leaders: What is your preferred future in your personal and family life and in your ministry?
Rather than: Are you satisfied with what you are doing now?
See the difference? The first asks for thought and narrative. The second asks for yes or no.
What kinds of questions do you think you should be asking your ministry team members? How might you frame them in a way that calls for thoughtful reflection and narrative, rather than simple yes or no responses?
How about the parents in your church? Are there open-ended questions you might ask them to help strengthen them in leading their homes? Write them down. Find ways to incorporate them into your conversations with them.
I look forward to hearing reports about how strong questions have helped you to encourage your team members, parents, and even the children you influence.